Excuse Me While I Rant

Excuse Me While I Rant

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I have more than one friend that admits to getting pregnant with essentially no effort. She may have decided to give it a whirl and “Blamo!” She never even had to crack open another box of Tampax. Or worse, she was on the pill and “Blamo”. Quintuplets. Ok, maybe not. But you see where I’m going.

This concept is mind-boggling to me and to many of my other friends and acquaintances in the “not-so-fertile” camp. We who have our OB on speed dial, or who put off buying a house to fund an adoption, or IVF, or surgeries necessary to up the odds of getting pregnant.

Fertility isn’t a subject I talk about a lot – and certainly not on my blog. It always seemed too personal and, quite frankly, the thought of people wanting to console makes me cringe. I also hate to sound bitter. I’m really not. Much.

Might I suggest, though….if you’re my neighbor, don’t forget your three-year-old at home when you go camping. I will have a hard time understanding ever forgetting your youngest child when it took three years, four pregnancies, three miscarriages, bed rest, pelvic rest, supplemental hormones and, ultimately, a c-section to get our son. I won’t pretend “it could happen to anyone” when we finally reach you by cell phone and you come home to collect him.

I’m just sayin’….

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    Sharon Briggs
    October 5th, 2009 at 8:56 pm

    Your rant is valid! No need to excuse yourself for doing so! I think fertile people (didn’t you say they have 5 kids?) take their kids for granted and don’t appreciate them near as much as people who struggle to have kids. I have to say it’s completely unfair that these people appear to have no fertily issues!

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    Ronda Rae
    October 6th, 2009 at 9:36 am

    I agree with Sharon …. seems some people take their children for granted and don’t realize how lucky they are. Here I am – the girl that flipped out on her 30th birthday and spent the morning in tears because she was now thirty with no children at all yet. Also I’m the girl that has multiple books on getting sperm donors and how to be a “single mother by choice”. I have 2 male friends that spent many years and dollars trying to be able to have their own children with their wives – to no avail, so they are very supportive of my child quest. But then there are those that just pop them out with no problem and seem to get pregnant just by breathing in the right air. Its not fair!!!

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    Amber
    October 6th, 2009 at 10:11 am

    I agree with the other comments-very valid rant.
    Some people do take their kids for granted…thanks for helping me remember to always be grateful for my kids. I can’t believe your neighbor forgot her kid and left him home. I don’t think there is even an excuse for that-whether you have 1 kid or 7. I also don’t care if people can give birth to 20 kids or more. They should only have the numer they can care for finacially, emotionally and physically. I can’t even imagine how you CAN forget your kid. It’s mind boggling.

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    Kim Sue Ellen
    October 9th, 2009 at 12:58 pm

    I’m saying I love you and I REALLY thing DCFS should take their kids away and STERILIZE them…I’m just saying.

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    Jen
    October 20th, 2009 at 2:02 pm

    Hear hear! And don’t ask people you just met, when you find out they “only” have 2 kids stupid questions like, “think you are going to have more?” or “have you considered adoption?” Seriously…the thought hadn’t crossed my mind…. *eyeroll*

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